8 Ways to Be A Better Listener

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The internet is filled with life hacks, but there's one timeless truth that will transform your relationships. It's not about grand gestures or extravagant gifts; it's about something simple yet often overlooked, listening.

The Untold Power of Being a Good Listener

Being a good listener isn't just about hearing words; it's about being present, hearing both what is said and not said, and is the gateway to depth and connection. It will not only be noticed and valued by the people you interact with, leaving them with a positive impression of you, but also help you be a better friend over time.

Unlocking the Magic: How to Be a Top-Notch Listener

1. Give Your Full Attention:
Being present makes people feel important Put down your phone, mute distractions, and focus entirely on what the person in front of you has to say. Let presence and eye contact be your superpower.

2. Be Empathetic:
Hold space for the person sharing and allow yourself to relate to and show compassion for their experiences and feelings. Go there and be there with them!

3. Ask Open-Ended Questions:
Deepen conversation with open-ended questions that ignite meaningful discussions. Ask thought provoking questions that go beyond a simple "yes" or "no."

4. Ensure you are following correctly:
Reiterate what's been shared to ensure you're on the same page. It shows you genuinely care.

5. Ditch judement & the need to fix:
Focus on listening and understanding. Reserve your opinions and advice unless your friend explicitly asks for them.

6. Be Supportive:
Be encouraging, reminding your friend that you're there for them, and that they will get through whatever is challenging them.

7. Remember the Details:
The information shared is relational gold and will not only show you care, but give you good reasons to check-in and sustain your bond.

8. Non-Verbal/physical presence:
Your body language, expressions, and tone of voice can amplify your attentiveness. Be face-to-face, with open arms, good posture, and nod/react in a caring and authentic way.

How to know if you aren't listening.

-Your mind wanders
-You interrupt them
-You're impatient
-You're thinking about your next comment/response
-You are judging them or making assumptions
-You only hear parts of what they are saying
-You're easily distracted
-A lack of eye contact
-Closed off body language
-You ask them to repeat themself
-You forget details
-Inappropriate responses

Conclusion: Listen Your Way to Lifelong Friendships!

In a world filled with distractions and noise, the power of being a good listener is the most potent tool in your friendship arsenal. It's a game-changer, a relationship builder, and a heartwarming connector. So, don't wait for a magic potion or a secret formula to forge lifelong friendships. The real magic is right within you, in your willingness to listen and connect on a profound level.

Unlock the true potential of your friendships by mastering the art of listening, and watch as your bonds become unbreakable! Start today and be amazed at the difference it makes. Remember, the most extraordinary friendships often begin with the simplest of gestures—listening! 🤝✨

About The Author

Mark Shapiro has sent over 20,000 personalized appreciation videos and is the founder of LoveBomb. Inspired by his TED Talk - "The Art of Connection in a Digital World," LoveBomb is a connection calendar & social assistant that makes it easy to never miss birthdays and big days in the lives of people you care about.